The Conventional Man and Woman

I try to break away from restricting conventions, but it's difficult. The other day, I judged this one person to be "not that pretty" semi-consciously, then gave myself a mental jab. I compared her to the conventional woman (or the idealized woman) and was so disgusted that I still haven't been able to develop a broader sense of what's beautiful.

It could be that your perception of beauty may contain some or many aspects of the 'conventional' view. If this is the case then don't criticize yourself but if you are still not happy with it then continue seeking out new definitions of beauty

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The other day, I judged this one person to be "not that pretty" semi-consciously, then gave myself a mental jab.

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It was my third eye, wasn't it? Or were you disgusted with my braided ear hairs?

Well, putting my flaws aside, you're human Attolia. What is conventional? You thinking this girl was "not that pretty" could be a total knock-out in the eyes of another. That other guy might be jabbing himself for thinking a super model is "not that pretty."

I was at the store the other night and I heard two teenagers, talking about this girl at another register.

First guy: Damn dude, I'd tap that a$$ any time.
Second guy: That's sick man. You could tap it and 50 others could too, it's so damn big.

Don't "jab" yourself for something like that. You have the right to an opinion of someone's beauty just like you have the right to think that what someone is doing is right or wrong. The only real reason for physical attraction is sex. If someone doesn't find me attractive it doesnt hurt my feelings and i wouldnt want them to feel bad for thinking that. But i also know that if someone doesnt find me attractive i do tend to question why and think if i could change that without going against myself. Why would i do this after i said how it only matters for sex?? Well let me tell you that in my experience if someone wants to have sex with you they are usually nicer to you and more willing to hear what you have to say than someone they don't want to.