Are we unconsciously narcissistic?

In general, people find attractions toward people who look like themselves, have similar facial features, have similar histories and/or are of similar social classes. why do we not more readily seek differences? if people have such low self esteem, how do we end up loving -in essence- ourselves? is this behavior learned or innate?

i do realize there are exceptions, but if you examine husbands and wives you can very often see similarities between the two.

Comfort. Simply: people need to be asured 'they' are doing the right things. So, you seek people similar to reinforce what 'you' want to be according to how you perceive what yourself should be. This is a product of environmental influence 'creating' what yourself is.

Comfort is the right answer. Leads to fewer problems. For example, if I'm a person who counts every penny earned and spent, I won't marry someone who loves to spend money, or else it will lead to problems.

Why would I examine myself in my new dress when I was five years old? Is it because I love myself or because I want to gain social approval? Social approval. Our self-love develops from comparing ourselves to others. Could you love yourself if you lived alone on an island?

Self-estemm leads to self-love. Agree?

It's necessary for people to be narcissistic, not absolutely just to a certain extent . If i didn't love myself and my opinions and think that everything said was worth saying then i'd never speak, aside from recreational speaking, same goes for everyone. Maybe self confidence is a better way of putting it. Even the self confidence that you know you will be able to get out the words properly and coherently to get your Big Mac without tomatoes and with extra pickles when ordering through the drive up prompt.