Ask Eva

These are just some observations I made about the service Ask Eva in the last week.

There have been times when people have posted asking Eva for help and I have felt I had a good piece of advice that was specific to their questions. But I never even tried to find out if I could post (which Im assuming you cant.) and give that advice, purely because the rules state you can not.

But recently there have been people beginning posts in the guise of needing help to add their "two cents" in and give advice to others on the Eva threads. Myself, I find this as an exploit of the service Eva provides and feel if the person who has the problem wanted general advice from the other members on the site they would just start a thread asking for it.

But what really interested me was that instead of Eva deleting the new threads she/he has chosen to answer these posters.

What was even more interesting is that the posters, who seemed so sure of their stance on things and so sure of the answers to a problem, found that what Eva said to them actually pointed out a few of their own problems and helped them clarify issues they didn't even think existed.

Now the reason I believe Eva was so effective in pointing out the poster's flaws and getting them to take another look within and find answers, (when usually the pointing to flaws or issues in a person will lead to them burying their head in the sand and/or getting aggressive.) is because Eva has been incredibly patient, objective and has had the interest of the poster in mind when replying.

I think that when some one is genuinely trying to help another and is totally unbiased, the other person will not feel as threatened as they normally would, and will be more prone to listen.

When there is ego involved in discussions we cant see past our views and be open minded.

When the ego is taken away and people are communicating purely to better themselves and those around them, then progress can be made.

I think that this example illustrates a very important thing about ourselves and our time on forums like these.

Too many times I have seen discussions turn into a stalemate, then degrade into pointless name calling and pedantic grammar correcting.

Eva's patience and egoless attempt at helping others has shown me an example of how to be successful at getting your point across.

I hope someone else can see what I pointed out, and it helps them in their communication with others.

I like Eva! She is cool.