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Girl coming to visit wants to "have fun"

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 37yrs • M •
A CTL of 1 means that Zach is a contributing member of Captain Cynic.
Girl coming to visit wants to "have fun"
My NEW situation.
OK guys and gals, heres my issue I need to talk about. MY first serious girlfriend I ever had was 4 years ago. I was 15 and she was 16 almost 17. Anyways she and I dated for about 6 months and it was purely a long distance relationship. We met only 2wice - once at a theme park for a day and another time when I went to see her at her house for 3 days. Then after a while we broke up because we were to young and it was to hard to stay long distance. Too painful and both mutually agreed to move on.

So we did and we talked for a few minutes every month or so to keep in contact, and just a few days ago she called me and told me she wants to come see me for christmas break. So told her I dont care if she comes, I would love to have her here. I haven't seen her in almost 5 years!! So im excited to have her here. But she isn't here yet- she will get here on tuesday and she will be staying until friday.

Now here is where the problem arises. She pretty much blantanly says that we are going to "have a good time". Im like what do you mean? Then she goes on to say how she is now single and she is going to be staying in my room with me for 3 nights.... so... were gonna have some fun and enjoy being single.

Now this is where I get worried. I have been asking so many people what they think about the situation. Also why I started that other thread about sex just for the physical feeling, but I am just torn and really don't know what to do. I've been thinking like mad recently, I am single.. I don't like anyone. Well I do but she is taken... so thats out of the question. I haven't "got any" since september................ Shes really hot...

So of course there is the part of me that is like HELL YEAH!!!!!! But the there is this other part of me that will feel very guilty if I were to actually do anything with her... So I am torn. Some people call me a pussy, some people call me amazing for my views. Some say I shouldn't and some say I should... But I just can't make up my God damn mind. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

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 36yrs • M •
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I know i'm a bit late in replying here, but decisions like this are purely up to you and depend on your own moral radar. you are going to have to figure out for yoursefl whether or not you would feel good about doing it or whether you will feel as if you have done something immoral. From your other posts u come across as the kind of guy who is looking for a relationship so doesn't really go for guilt free casual sex. but u had the offer of it, if it wouldn't hurt her or you to take it then why not, its always worth trying out new things.

What did you choose to do?

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