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My problem was with your stated idea of telling but not doing.

300 people should each concern themselves with not offending eachother.

If we took care not to offend each other we would cut down the offenses. Sure it is easiest just to say and do whatever you feel like, but a little effort to achieve unity should be worthwhile. Empathy must be proactive, if change needs to occur then do it yourself.

But it's impossible to not offend anyone when you say something, so if you really don't want to offend ANYONE, then shut up.

it may be impossible to not offend anyone, but perhaps instead of worrying what others would think, just dont use potentially offensive terms in any context or conversation, then you dont have to worry about offending those people, and they dont have to get offended by you.

as for the black person calling another "my nigger" that holds none of the same connotations as a white person saying it, due to the fact that it does not have any history behind it when a black person says it. most black people would probably tell you that they would be offeneded by you saying it, compared to another black person saying it.

as for other stereotypes, while they may not have as strong a meaning as "nigger", they may still be offensive to people. just out of interest why do you say "nigger" or "chink", is there any reason? if there is no need to use something potentially insulting then don't, simple as that.

as for not saying anything, someone is bound to get annoyed with you for not replying to what they say

ithink mostpeople look for reasons to get offended .
its like when someone says something like
"man this ice cream is cod."
i could say
"your mom is cold!"
and if they were stupid enough, theyd get pissed off.
i think that people hear something that they should be getting pissed off about so they make themselves get mad.
its not that they neccesarily are mad. just that they think they should be.

what is the need for you reply though?
people get annoyed, because they assume you are trying to insult them. if someone insults you you get annoyed. unless you were suggesting that the person mum needs to put on a sweater or something, how else can they take it other than as an insult?

because it is clearly light hearted and meant to be a freindly remark.
and you pretty muched just helped my point out. its not that they are insulted, more that they think we are trying to insult them when we say "nigger."
if they would just get over themselves, we wouldnt have a problem.
now i know this makes me sound like a racit, but i never say, or even want to say, nigger. so dont think that.
but im talking about people in general. why cant they just let things go like that. but no. they would rather get pissed off about every little thing because they think it makes them more like a man, or tougher, or some shit like that.

i agree with you, people arent annoyed by the remark, butby the thought that you are trying to insult them. but i would say that it actually annoys them, rather than them just feeling they should be annoyed.

the light hearted and friendly remark comment however brings up the whole, right situation debate. and then the worries bit. would you not agree that it is easier to not make comments that may insult at all, than make them and cause insult, or try and only make them when they wont insult someone?

for me.. sometimes. but if i feel like saying something and i hide that i feel that i am not being honest and truthful. not to that person, but to myself.

Insults are a form of expression. Insults are a way to be honest. But if you cared more about building bridges, then you wouldn't use words or phrases that will cause outright anger.

Plus, you can't always tell the entire truth. Part of being intelligent is adapting to the situation. Speaking a way the other person will understand and accept what you say.

I would have to say my opinion is that people shouldn't use racist terms.
First of all whats the point?
Second of all why take a chance of insulting someone.
Third of all, if you use the words because they are "funny" think about why they are funny. Is it because people get pissed when they hear it or something of that sort? Or is it funny for no reason?
For me, angry people make me laugh because they loose all sense of rationality and become nothing more than fools who yell. That seems to be the only reason I can find that would make a racial slur funny at all but even with that said I still think it is pointless to even use the words at all, unless of course you are intentionally looking for anger.
Well thats just the opinion from this here guy.

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Plus, you can't always tell the entire truth

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yes you can. i do it all the time.

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Part of being intelligent is adapting to the situation

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sure. but i dont see what that has to do with me insulting someone.

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Insults are a way to be honest

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not always. sometimes its a way to piss someone off. some tiems its a way to express anger. some times they are a way to get a kick out of someone. hence the your mom jokes.

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First of all whats the point?

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look upward.

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Second of all why take a chance of insulting someone

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because i probably dont care what they think.

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its funny for a reason. but that snt the only reason why someone would do it.

So then you don't actually care about the person you're insulting. You only want to express your opinion and leave it at that. That's alright. I'm all up for honesty, but if you want to take it one step further, but there are better ways to show a person that they're an idiot without actually calling them one. If you wanted them to improve, you can show them how their thoughts are lacking in certain areas. I think this will lead to a better result compared to name calling.

I didn't mean that those wee the only reasons why its funny, for instance when it is just ridiculous. Or out of no where.
What ever the reason. I still think it is wrong though because it just seems negative in the long run. Oh well.