Question for the Ladies (guys too)

At what point does a guy friend become 'hands off'? I've noticed that after a certain point in a friendship, a lot of girls seem to become too emotionally invested to move on any attraction they might feel (out of fear of ruining the friendship, I guess). Whereas most guys (admit it) view any moving female as open season at any time, even if their higher functions stop them from doing anything about it. I guess my question is, if a girl is friends with you and not necessarily unattracted, what are the warning signs that the relationship is approaching the point of no return? It can be very difficult to get out of that 'just friends' designator. I know that doesn't mean the window of opportunity is shut and locked, but I'd rather not have to try and jimmy it open!

Situations like this are also very difficult for me because I've been burned a few times in the past, so now I always try to get to know the girl before I act on my feelings. I would greatly appreciate any advice.

its extremely circumstantial. i think really the only time you would find a "point of no return" is if the woman has found somebody else. if she views you as a friend and only a friend, attempting a transition in to a relationship is very risky business. my best advice is that you keep female "friends" just as they are. starting a relationship with the intention of being more than just friends is a hell of a lot easier.

i am in the same boat as you. i have been burned and as a result like to be very cautious in the beginning. there are ways to make your intentions clear and still be cautious though.

with all that said, ill tell you something. as long as you take things slow enough you can be with just about anyone. if you slowly start behaving differently she will notice. it is such a fragile process that again i dont recommend at all. if you push to fast she will get very creeped out and possibly never speak to you again. but if you go very very slowly and communicate on a deep solid level you can expect to at least have a shot at something more than just a friendship. i managed to pull it off with a long time, very close friend of mine, but i honestly dont know how i got so lucky. we talked a lot before taking any steps. i did all kinds of little things to show how much i cared. it was a very tedious process to be honest. i can say with full confidence that it was worth it though.

i dont know...as a girl....there is a point where a guy becomes a good friend and thats it.....one of my best friends is a male, and he is very good looking, he's even my "type" but i could never even imagine being with him like that....we're just to good of friends, it would be awkward and feel creepy, sort of like making out with my brother...the best i can tell you is to let her know your interested...if she wants to go there with the relationship she'll let you know....i mean, you can usually tell if someone is interested in more than a friendship