Monogomy

I'm just curious what everyone's thoughts are on monogomous relationships. And I have a few questions/scenarios around the subject.

1. Does monogomy coincide with our natural tendencies? (I think that question may pertain more to men than to women, right?)

2. Is it possible to have a totally loving and trusting, yet "open" (sexually) relationship? Is it only our insecurities that make us want our partners to "belong" to us and us alone?

3. Let's say someone was in a committed relationship with someone of the opposite sex but had never explored a same sex encounter. The opportunity presents itself and they want to "check it out" even if nothing more than for curiosity's sake. Is part of the stigma attached to cheating the man vs man and woman vs woman competition aspect? Could it be perceived as less like "cheating" and more like "innocent exploration" if it is a first encounter with someone of the same sex?

The most recent statistics I've seen on adultry was 60% men and 40% women do it, but I just know that women are better at keeping secrets like that and are better liars.

So is "satisfaction" within a monogomous relationship just an illusion, that keeps us striving for something that isn't possible?

I think people who express happiness in relationships are either realists, understand the balance of the good and bad that comes with them, flat out lying, or one of the lucky few that find a relationship with a 80-90% possitive outcome and compatibility.

Oh ya and of course the niave, the ones who haven't yet learned the ways of the broken heart.

Marriage is an authorization to religiously unite. It's supposed to guarantee commitment. It's obvious a permit can't exceed the emotions and actions of humankind.

I've been married for 18 years. That's a long time. Within those years, there have been triumphs and failures. We will grow old together because we both share the same dreams. Is he my true love? Who knows? I don't think anyone knows, until they've passed on.

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Is it possible to have a totally loving and trusting, yet "open" (sexually) relationship? Is it only our insecurities that make us want our partners to "belong" to us and us alone?

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Do people in a relationship actually belong?

A polygamy relationship works well for some, but it wouldn't for me.

As far as your question on cheating with the same sex....cheating is not limited to any gender preference.