Submissiveness & Subservience

My partner and I are having a debate and I'm curious to hear your thoughts on it. Do you think that submissiveness and subservience is a sign of weakness?

Thanks Decius for your feedback. I should have clarified that I was referring to life in general. In relationships there has to be a give and take in terms of points of views expressed and concessions made in order to determine the best course of action for the relationship. But sometimes there are circumstances where a couple is butting heads and neither individual is willing, or perhaps able due to programming, to submit to the other's beliefs. It is more in reference to situations like that where my partner is of the opinion that someone has to be the 'ultimate ruler'.

Submission is a good thing if you know what your doing. Like being submissive to your boss if you wanna keep your job.

if you are too submissive in the work place your co-workers will take advantage of you very quickly. being the aggressor gets you higher up on the totem pole faster anyway...

personally, i think you get more out of life being the agressor, but knowing your limits and when to back off is definately key.

"its a dog eat dog world"

Ultimate ruler...

Having a leader keeps a group organized and secure, but in terms of a couple....that's a tough one. Decisions will lie in the hands of the leading partner, which may or may not please the other. Having one partner dominate the other may be a way of getting issues resolved without too much hassle. So subservience may not always be a sign of weakness.