interratial relationship... but wait, there's

ok, so i met this great guy, and he's warm, friendly, loving, just the best (all that, an a bag of chips... we both share the same beleifs/interests, and i was thinking of telling him how i feel about him. he happens to be mexican (me, caucasion), but i have no problem w/ this( unless there's a rule in the bible, that im overlooking, cuz i like him so much), so it should be a good idea to tell him.........well, anyhoot, what i didn't mention first off, is that i met him at my family reunion- because he's my cousin! well, wouldn't it be wierd to go out w/ your own cousin? that's what i thought, but then it might be ok, then again, cuz he's also adopted into the family, so there's no bloodlines that we share!

i still wanna go for it, but im scared a little, i don't want to make my family mad @ me, what should i do?
N E thoughts? lemme know.

thanks a bunch,
ammy
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definately talk to him before anyone else about it... thats a tough situation but if you go about it the right way it could probably work out...

thanks sooo much for your input, i didn't know who to ask! now i just hafta figure out how i should go about telling him- and before he goes to college, besides.....as you can see im not that experienced when it comes to relationships.......any ideas would be very much appriciated help!


i'll pray it over,
ammy

Hey Ammy... you know your family best so you should have an idea of how they might react to you dating him. If they're open, they'll accept it. But I agree with Wyote, definately talk to to the guy first, if the feelings are mutual, you could reach upon a decision together. If he likes you too, then perhaps just start hanging out together, get to know each other more, to determine if there is really something there before telling your folks. Hope that helps.

well, see,the thing is, i've never really had a bf/gf relationship .....iguess i have jus been holdin' out for the 'right one'. yeah, i can't really tell if my folks would go fer sumthing like this, but hey, there's a first time for everthing! did i mention that he lives out-of-state? well, call me crazy, but chatting back an forth w/ e-mails kinda lets me get to know him on a deeper more in-tuned level......i think i am crazy! so, i think i'll jus wait another day or so, an think it over (as if that would help, but who knows) stranger things have happened, right? hhhhhhmmmmmmm.......
many thanks-ta-yous,
ammy

My appologies in advance cause you prolly wont like me for this....

I have no doubt in my mind that it is a bad idea.... Lets not touch the fact right now that he's your cousin, but long distance relationships are hard enough as it is.

Now let's say you two do hook up and in a few years are still together and want to marry and have kids. FIRST of all, It's illigal for family to marry, and there is a MUCh higher persent rate that your children will have problems.

I know that personally I could never be intimate like that with my cousins.

Bu this is your issue, and you have to chose what you want to do. This is only my opinion.

umm, I just reread your post and I didnt realise that he was adopted. But I guess youa ll know my opinion on hookin' up with a cousin now.

Im really sorry 'bput that.

Sometimes when you tell someone how you feel, you end up scaring them away and messing the whole thing up. Just shut up and go with it. Were ever it takes you is were should be.

I know its too late to give u advice n all coz u prolly dun sumthing already. I just wanna say that long distance relations are not hard to keep if you love each other, trust each other and are faithful to each other. i got a friend who lives here and is going out with a girl in London for about a year.

The next is you two are not blood relations so it doesnt matter if you two go as far as getting married n havin children. there are loads of people around the world who have married there cousins and even to the extent of brother and sisters.