how would you define sexuality?

My friends and I were talking the other day, and we came to the conclusion that sexuality had a lot to do with acknowledging your own self as a sexual being, but it also the way some people treat you. We started talking about each of our own experiences with coming to terms with our selves as such. For myself, I grew up feeling pretty asexual, because all of my guy friends saw me as 'the little sister' and I never noticed any attention I got from guys. It wasn't until I moved that I actually started noticing the attention I was getting. and I realized that it can be sort of an empowering thing. I mean, women's rights and all of that say that it's bad to be seen as a sexual object. But, is this always the case? I know that every once and awhile, I like the attention. I gives me a feeling of power sometimes. I don't mean that it's good to always be seen as a sexual object, with no mind or what have you...but sometimes. I like to be reminded that guys see me as sexy. Just hoping for some other thoughts and opinions on the whole subject...Voice away....

I like being seen as a sexual object. I love the attention I get. Most of the time that is.

At times when I am alone it can get scary. I get alot of gangish guys after me, and they are always in groups. I have the "I got a gun down the back of my pants, i'm shifting it over," act done PERFECTLY. I think it helps that I am quite tall for a girl, with a lower voice. Now I know that sounds stupid but if I was petite with a squeeky high voice, crap, what am I trying to say here....I appear stronger than I really am?? I walk as if I am not afraid of anyone, and I have been in soooooo many situations that if I were to have shown ANY type of weakness, you would not be reading my mispelled ramblings at this time.

Lets just say I agree with your statement of the feeling of "power." I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It shure helps thats for shure.

But seriously.... the power dosen't come from sexiness. You can be sexy and as dumb as they come and the only place it will get you is with a guy who has money. Big deal. Us women who are sexy WITH a head on their shoulders are quite powerful.

In conclusion I agree.

I overflow with pimpjuice.
And thats all I gota say about that.

I have a very strong opinion against your belief about women being a sex object. Being viewed as a sex object by men, means that you are not respected as an individual person, you are viewed upon as being subordinate to men. Moreover, you are not viewed upon as being a respectable women, you are viewed upon as being "easy"! Do you know anything about dignity? You say women who have a "head on her shoulders" does not mind being viewed as a sex object. Reconsider wheather or not you are that smart! I am known as a very beautiful women as well and I do not like being viewed upon as a mere sex object to men. I am a college graduate, a mother, a daughter, an aunt, and a sister; I would not want my family to see me present myself in the manner in which you do. It made me angry when I read your degrating blog about yourself, mainly because women like you are the reason why men think they can get away with having very little or no respect for women. Please, keep your opinions to your self if you cannot present yourself as a respectable women. Being a sex object actually makes you powerless over men, and women like me are offended by women like you. Do not flatter yourself and say that I am jealous.

Moon: Why would you like for a lot of men to see you as being sexy? I do not like to be sexually harrassed. How does being treated with no respect make you feel good about yourself? I do not want men looking at me as though I am a sex object. Sometimes I think my husband sees me as one, and I do not like it. Are you aware of the fact that men sexually harrass women to keep her subordinate to them, or does this matter to you? How can a women be empowered by being sexy? You feel empowered to get men who are taken to look at you and hurt his lady? Is this the attention you were refering to in your blog? Whatever. God is offended by this sort of behavior. We are here to serve God!

First of all, I think you've interpreted what I've said all wrong. I do enjoy being seen as sexy, but I don't think that 'sexy' is purely a physical thing. Intelligence is sexy, as is a sense of adventure. What defines 'sexy' is what attracts people to each other. It's evolution,really. Who is sexiest, is granted the option to spread their genetic material more, and through, survival of the fittest, the sexiest wins out. Now, no one logically likes to be sexually harassed. That's pushing it. But, where is that line drawn? If someone mentions that they find you attractive, but don't say it in a degrading manner, is that harassment? If that is the case, then I have been guilty of harassment numerous times among my boyfriends, guy friends and even my girl friends. I never said anything about enjoying being seen as a sexual object. I am a human being, and being reffered to as an object, is disgusting. You want a sex object, go to a sex shop. But feeling sexy and feeling like a sexual object are two vastly different things. I feel that by taking control of my sexuality, and believing myself to be sexy will stop me from allowing myself to be objectified to such an extent. Allowing yourself to be objectified doesn't give one power. I never said that. It's no lie that women are and will continue to be objectified. I'm not okay with that at all. But I am okay with being sexy. That doesn't mean showing a lot of skin, or parading my body around. It means that I'm okay with who I am, and I'm okay with being noticed. In the end it comes down to self esteem. I can be wearing jeans and a baggy sweater and still allow myself to be sexy, independant of what any guys thinks or says. I do not need to be justified by other people. I think tho, in the end that mind frame makes me sexy. That is empowering. And there are times when I step out in a dress and I get looks. And you know what? It's my choice. Humans are visual creatures. If a guy is going to be so blunt as to look at me while he's with his girl, that's not my problem. I'm not going to change who I am for anyone else. Is he offended when she looks at other guys? Because I guarantee that she's doing just as much as he is. People are always looking at what they don't have, and comparing it with what they do have. Life is about accepting what you have and being happy with it. Being sexy will get you places. It's a foot in the door for a lot of things, but that doesn't mean that you don't need a little self motivation to keep yourself going. And, I dont' know about you, but I'm not here to serve anyone. I am a master of my own destiny, and if I've offended anyone, they're more than welcome to come and tell me on their own terms. I don't think you, or anyone else for that matter can speak for God. No matter how close you and she might be.

Moon: I can respect you for your own beliefs and idiosycrasies; however, I disagree with you about all men and women looking at other people. I can honestly say that I do not look at other men becasue I am so in love with my husband there is no man who can ever meet up to him or take my attention off of him. I can respect your religous beliefs and I do not wish to comment on them.

In my opinion, there is a big differnce in personality and sexuality: your intelligence, and how adventurous you are makes up your character and your personallity. Being sexy is the way we attract men and get them interested and arroused to make love. further, being sexy is for the bed room. being beuatiful is for the public. I think your intelligence and other external qualities that you present is what makes you beuatiful. Please note: I am heterosexual.

The way that I feel about people thinking other people who they are not involved with are sexy is this: you are not even supposed to be looking at each other this way because you are not in love or involved in a sexual relationship. I do not like for men who I do not know, thinking about how sexy he thinks I am. I feel violated and he should not be looking that deeply into my soul, meaning: he should not be looking for my sexuality. Does this make sense?

I have one last comment to your blog: my intellagence has got me where I am today; being sexy had nothing to do with it! I worked hard in college, my tanacity and my will to excell is what got me my degrees and my self worth and respect from my professors. My intelagence is what attracted my husband to me, and he is the best man I have ever been with. So, I am beuatiful in the publics eye not sexy!

You sound like a very nice person and I feel that you and I are just the oppsite of one another, this is why I can respect your beliefs!

Katy

I live by the teachings of my Creek great-grand mother.
Be careful who you have sex with. Souls mix during sex. If you have sex with someone evil, they will get some of your goodness and you will get some of their evil.

?????How would that affect a rape victim then?

Sexuality:

If you're a guy and you play football and like porn I'd say you were straight.

If you're a guy and play my little pony and like porn I'd say you're not exactly a roman road.

If your a girl and you like housekeeping and talk about guys, then hi, my name's Jim (fit ones only though).

If you're a girl, like football and like porn, you like sticking to your own.

If none of these apply then I suggest beer.