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 56yrs • F •  DianaMJoice is new to Captain Cynic and has less than 15 posts. New members have certain restrictions and must fill in CAPTCHAs to use various parts of the site.  |
It's been a few years since you posted this here, but I'd like to give you my heartfelt condolence.
When women are uncertain of how to feel towards you or even express this kind of uncertainty, the man isn't showing up as someone who carves his own way, marks his realm as someone who knows what he wants, shows what he's made of and backs it up every single time.
Your ex replied with uncertainty. She might not yet understand why she feels the way she does (which 17 year young woman does) let alone explain that her innate desire to be taken fiercely and loved mercilessly is the only way to keep her feeling safe with you.
She has to feel that you're a man of your word, that she can trust your judgement, that she can be free to be herself while you hold her in your space.
And a man's boundaries, letting her know that you won't accept any of her emotional drama (the kind that sucks the life out of you) or immature behavior and have her take responsibility for her happiness - those are things one has to learn before a relationship can last, even if there was a deep intimacy and connection between the two of you.
But that was then. How are you doing now?
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