Things That Bother Me - Page 2

awakendwraith

Through my life I have felt pretty much the same about girls. Expecially if I was attracted to them. But after time I have learned that all grils and boys are pretty much the same. And that which botherd me eventually went away. Instead of looking for one that is attractive, look for one that has a personality that stands out like a beacon. For these are the enlightend one's.

love is blind. so is my atraction.

i think the prob there is completely the opposite at times. you find someone physically attractive, and then get annoyed, because there personality is totally at odds with the way that they look, i know the feeling, it always used to irritate me that any girl i found physically attracted tended to be a complete bitch. as for the bad things bit i can completely understand that, my gf doesnt exactly have the most steady family life, so i try and help when i can, but i dont know all the background, and that irritates me, i dont know who to back in the conflict, and that if i stick my oar in im likely to cause more harm than good.

Your too fixed on the way things should be when realistically the things that bother you are just the way things are. Take for instance you being bothered by girls gaining responsibility. Your fixed on the fact that things won't be the way they were and how the girls are losing innocence to the problems of society and such. But, this is a fixed reality of the way things are. Horrible things happen to good people and that's just life. These things happen for reasons of making people stronger. Maybe this is why you're bothered.

Cynic-Al- ni, because i do not find them atractive untill i get a first imppresion on their personality.

Jacker_Jones- the problem is i already understand that. i just cant accept it.

8. when i try to do good, only to hurt someone- when i try to do good, only to hurt people, it bothers me. i try to help, but i only seem to hurt. and faith tells me, aswell as other people, though they may be unintelligent, that its worth a try. imagine a building is being built.(a person) the building has cracks in its foundation that will stunt its growing any more. there are all ready other layers on top of the foundation. but in order to fix the cracks the foundation must be torn down. i tend to tear foundations, and i would like to rebuild, but it is to hard for the person to forgive me, so they get left on there own. i am at a dillema where i do not know if the payoff of a succeful reconstruction will ever happen, and if it will be enough to make me good again. but carpentry is in my nature so it is hard to hold my tounge. it bothers me that i cant figure this out, and that i qeustion my faith.

9. how girls/people change from child to... not child- how girls/people change from child to... not child bothers me. i get this heavy feeling on my xhest like im about to have an asthma attack and i want to know EVERYTHING that has EVER happen to that person. and i want to sit down and discuss every single bit of it. i really have absolutly no clue as to why i feel this way. and it is extremly hard to express the emotion. it feels like extreme want. yes. extreme want. i hate that feeling. how girls/people change from child to... not child bothers me.

I have only onething to say: Ditto

10. the universes unfairness- the universes unfairness bothers me. i will sum up my univeres unfairness theory:
the only reason why i am here is because of incedents that have happend in the past. billions of them all have had eqaul part in how i got here. but none of them did i have any control over. this goes for everyincident in the world, and for every person. and that bothers me

11. the fact that i cannot-have not form a good relationship with anyone (nonsexual)- the fact i cannot-have not form a good relationship with anyone (nonsexual) bothers me. it happens for reasons that i have no control over. i can do nothing about them. perhaps something, but i dont know what. and that bothers me.

all "good" relationships take a lot of effort and comittment from both people. tough to find for sure.

12. people who have been emotional damaged beyond a repair that will not take a serious amount of healing- people who have been emotional damaged beyond a repair that will not take a serious amount of healing bother me. because i can deal with anything, at all. and i mean deal with it. not hide. not pretend. but fucking deal with it and solve the problem. and i tmakes me think, what if im jsut pretending really well. and it really only bothers me if i care about the person.

Did it ever occour to you that they may be healing in their own way? Simply because they don't wish to talk about thier past with you does not mean they don't wish to talk about it with someone else. Being pushy by making them tell thier story is not healing them. Healing happens as they learn to deal with the problem, and yes sometimes that includes discussing it with someone else, but simply telling someone what happens does not fix anything especially when they "force" you to.

i said nothign about that. yes, they aer for the most part silent, but that doesnt matter. because i know that it is in their natur to shre and to be inquisitive, yet they choose not to. and i know that i am the person they confide in most, yet they choose not to.
of course that has accured to me. im not an idiot. i know that everybody has their own way, but when i see them standing still and not moving towards a solution at all, i do tend to push and shove.
but trust me when i say, they are nto dealting with it in what i would consider a healthy manner.